AHS-L2-3. Deception in Romantic Relationship

Makayla Kolojay1
Faculty Mentor: Natalie Pennington, Ph.D.1
1Greenspun College of Urban Affairs, Department of Communication Studies

Romantic Relationships are an important part of an individual’s life; having a partner can help us feel secure, bring joy, laughter,commitment, emotional and physical intimacy. While focusing on communication inside romantic relationships, this study is focused on the role deception to promote relational satisfaction. Deception is a conscious attempt to create or perpetuate false impressions. I bring attention to existing research about deception to understand the effects it has on how happy someone is within their relationship. This project I will talk about the multiple motives behind deception, such as lying and interpretation. It will also include intentional and unintentional motives. Essentially, deception can be a positive and negative thing, and I will discuss the best intentions for helping relationships.


Nov 15 - 19 2021


All Day


AHS: Lighting Talk Session 2
The Office of Undergraduate Research


The Office of Undergraduate Research


11 Replies to “AHS-L2-3. Deception in Romantic Relationship”

  1. This lighting talk really did bring me to think about the relationships I have been in. One of the biggest problems I think was the Self Deception that was mentioned. Many people talk themselves into cheating on a partner because they lie to themselves saying that, “It’s not cheating if…” This issue is what many people go through. Another part to the self deception I thought about was that people often lie to themselves about their partner cheating. People who are insecure in their relationships will lie and convince themselves that their partner is cheating and this thinking process can hurt a relationship tremendously. Romantic relationships can be one of the hardest things to balance in life.

  2. Great presentation on deception and the different types of deception. I think self deception happens alot more than what we realize as individuals, especially when it comes to relationships. This is where people are in relationships and tell themselves that it is going to work out when in reality it just wasn’t meant to be. Unfortunately, I think the most common form of deception is where one partner is intentionally lying or hiding something from the other partner.

  3. Hi,
    I thought your topic of deception in romantic relationships was very interesting to hear about. I thought you did a great job of breaking down what deception is and it’s different forms. I was particularly surprised that you brought up self deception, because I think that is often overlooked. Having biases and lying to yourself is a form of deception that isn’t done directly to the other person, but does still affect a romantic relationship. I thought that you gave good information and were straight to the point, however if I could give a critic I would suggest maybe practicing not using as many filler words. This often takes away from how confident you sound presenting your information. Otherwise, great job!

  4. Hello Makayla,
    I enjoyed hearing you talk about deception in romantic relationships. Your presentation was very informative. However, I noticed that you talk lightly and there were sounds in your background. I recommend practicing because it makes you more comfortable with your topic. This can assist with guaranteeing you don’t stumble over words. Also, I recommend making your pace and tone engaging. Your pace and tone can extraordinarily affect your success as a presenter. Audiences love listening to speakers who sound interesting on their actual points. Rather than talking in a monotone voice and utilizing a predictable speed all through your presentation. Overall, Your content was relevant and your format was visually appealing and easy to follow. Job well done!

  5. I really liked the concept of putting in different deception on romantic relationship, since as a younger age group, we tend to be more misleading and having poor communications. I feel like self-deception is a very sensitive topic, where it only talks about how individuals may lie to themselves, and it does cause more unwanted factor into the relationship for instance, you feel down and acting like you are happy but not, it could also effect the other partners emotion, and the relationship would eventually be ended. It is always important to have good communications with one another. I just wish you have put in some statistic of how people act in relationships. Overall this was a great presentation!!!

  6. Deception happens all the time, especially in romantic relationships. The title of this talk is what intrigued me. I was taken by surprise that unintentional deception is a topic of this because it is something that just doesn’t cross my mind but it makes complete sense that this would happen. However, I am not too sure that unconscious or unintentional deception is actually the best way to say it because in the definition of deception that is brought up in this talk it says that deception is a conscious attempt to create or perpetuate false impressions. Therefore, one could argue that since you’re not doing it intentionally that it technically isn’t deception. That is also what makes this topic interesting is that there are so many layers and differing perspectives that you wouldn’t consider on a normal basis because everyone is just accustomed to the way relationships are these days. I really don’t think people stop and think enough about how they could hurt peoples feelings or create misunderstandings or how one white lie could build upon itself and cause negative energy in a relationship and with romantic relationships this could most definitely end the relationship. When I clicked on this lightning talk I wasn’t too sure if it would be interesting or just talk about things anyone would know but it has proven to really make you think and be engaged in the topic. I would like to hear more on this sometime.

  7. Hi Makayla,

    I thought that your lighting talk was interesting. I did not realize that deception had so many layers to it. Self-deception was brought to my attention and how we deceive ourselves when we have selective hearing and attention, are bias, or when we self assure ourselves of something that is false. Not only is there deception that involve ourselves, but there is also deception with others and accidental. At what point in a relationship does deception becomes unhealthy or when is it a good time to leave a relationship because of deception?

  8. Hi Makayla,
    The title of your lighting talk initially caught my attention because I have always been interested in the complexity of human relationships and of the dynamic between two individuals who are romantically linked. When I think about the word deception, though, I have always connected it to having a negative connotation, especially when in one’s relationship. I liked how you broke down deception into three different types and supported these with examples. I also enjoyed the pictures you used to support each slide. In addition to this, I liked how you concluded the talk with pictures of people in a happy relationship and how you discussed the way that your research would lead to aspects of healthier relationships as pictured. Your lighting talk kept my attention all the way through as I was engaged and interested in the material that was discussed. Some feedback for you that I think could have been improved (for future reference) was your increase in pace at times, the clarity of your sound/voice, misspelled words, and using words like “um.” I also thought that the slides could have had a bit more time and effort put into them in terms of looking cleaner and more pleasing to the viewer’s eye with different fonts, colors, and sizes used. Overall, you had really nice content included and did a good job leading viewers into your project and research. Thank you for sharing!

  9. Hello Makayla,
    Your presentation was clean and I understood exactly what your research would be about. It did seem like you were a bit uncomfortable presenting the slides and may have needed to practice it a bit more to ensure a smoother delivery. This would help eliminate words such as kinda, like, and extra reiteration. There was a lot of variation in the volume and background noises as well which was a bit distracting, but that could be outside your control. With your presentation, I understood the information being covered, but it seemed as if it was missing more slides or that it was just meant to be an introduction. So while I think it would improve immensely with more practice and a different location or microphone, I do think that the study subject would be an intriguing one that would be enlightening. Thank you for your presentation!

  10. Hello Makayla,
    Watching your presentation on deception in relationships really intrigued me since there are many cases of deception or misleading information in couples. Especially with the current generation, many people now engage in using filters, catfishing, lying about their background/profession, etc. In the past, these were not considered a “thing,” and yet we have many instances of deception from something very small to something very big. From what I can understand, there are various kinds of deception, and like you said, depending on the situation, deception in romantic relationships can be positive or negative. However, in my opinion, nonetheless, deception is something innate to everyone, especially with the current trend and social behavior. Although many people would disagree, everyone at some point engages in actively deceiving their partners to avoid fights, arguments, improve their first impressions, etc. It is unfortunate, but I believe learning and becoming more aware of this will surely help many people avoid using deception and retain healthy relationships.

    Great work!

  11. Makayla Kolojay provided a clear subject with relevant examples and facts that supports ideas with evidence. The images and transitions were smooth and visually informative to prove an argument. I would recommend getting into more details about the negative and positive effects of a deception in a romantic relationship. Additionally, the presentation lacks professionalism with the uneven volume and poor delivery of the information. Overall, the content is accurate and the topic was well introduced.

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